How to Turn Enemies into Friends

Having enemies is exhausting. Let's be honest. Who really wants to think that there are people out there who hate us? Most people are not really well with all that thinking. There are a lot of people who say they are fine with having enemies, but then complain mercilessly about all the terrible things these enemies do and end with the question: "Why do you hate me so much? What have I done?" So now the mission is to make friends and not enemies .... or rather conform enemies to friends. Read on to learn how to turn enemies into friends.

Instructions

1 Begin by taking a serious look at why this person is your "enemy". What makes you not like him/her or vice versa? Is the reason for something that you can not get the past and maybe instead of being a friend, you should only work on being educated just in passing? Or is reason somewhat immature and superficial and there really is no reason why everyone can not get along? Once you do a self-examination and can honestly answer this question, you can determine if you want to continue with the next steps.

2 Be good. This may take some time and practice to be kind to someone who is perhaps terribly rude to you or who has gotten into the habit of being rather unpleasant to you. If you really want to develop a friendship with this person, however, you should be nice. Think about your current friends. Are you friends with them because they treat you like dirt or because they are kind and considerate and caring? Most likely, it is the latter or both.

3 Do a little chat. Open a conversation about a common interest you may have and see what happens from there. It's small, but it's a start and that's where it all starts.

4 Be patient. If this person is your enemy at this point in time, there is a reason for it and he/she will have to have time to overcome that reason. Time will help you to show this person that you are worthy to be friends with. That you are not as bad as what he or she thought.

5 Do acts of kindness without expecting reciprocity. Good people will do acts of others without expecting anything in return and those who did not feel obliged to return the favor will really appreciate the act more and have a higher concept of the person performing the act.

6 Do not be desperate or upset or even approach the enemy's stalking to become your friend. Actually, this will make the person far more. Do your good deeds, be nice, and then sit back and do not stress about how you will react to that person. He or she is to wake up and see you for the great person you are or remain stubborn and remains a nemesis in your case.

7 Remember the old saying "Not everyone is going to like you." If after the above steps, you are not "friends" with your "enemy", then accept that two were never intended to be more than two people who will know each other's names and move on. Do not waste a moment on someone who is not interested in knowing how great you are. Give someone the opportunity instead.